That's right. You read that right.
When you're in school starting in 6th, 7th, 8th grade you begin to care what others think of you. You wonder if they think your outfit is ugly or if your shoes are in style. Let me let you in on a little secret ...
Everyone is too busy paying attention to themselves to think about you.
People are simply too concerned with their own life to care about your ugly outfit. Well... this is true for junior high.
When I was in high-school I was overly concerned with what people thought of me. And the same holds true that high-schoolers are self-centered. No one is paying attention to what you're doing more than you are. And you are wasting your time thinking about what they're thinking about.
Be selfish in the way that you are putting your wants first. Do what you love. Wear what you like. Have friends that are good to you. Because no one cares about what you're doing.
If you implement this mindset at a younger age it will only help you throughout life and save you from wasting your energy.
If Sally tells her friend that she thinks you're uncool because you're friends with Tina, that's Sally's problem. If you really think about it.. why is Sally so bothered by the fact that you're friends with Tina?
Because she wants to be friends with Tina.
The only time someone will care about what you're doing is if they have a problem within themselves that needs paying attention to. Sally is jealous that you don't care what people think and are friends with who you want to be friends with. Sally is only friends with her next door neighbor who she met in first grade that her mom introduced her to. And that's who she is talking to about you and your friend Tina. Who is really the uncool one?
When someone is paying attention to what you're doing and furthermore doesn't like what you're doing, it is a reflection of themselves and their insecurities.
Remember this when you are upset about someone gossiping about you. It really isn't about you at all.
You should do what you love, because people are too focused on themselves to care.
Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.